Ever been at a loss for words? Perhaps you’ve been challenged or feel disrespected, or you quite simply don’t know the answer. This will happen to even the most seasoned MSL. Therefore, never take things personally, even though it may often feel that way. You could even be barraged with insensitive or embarrassing language or be read out by your manager in public. Or, most dreadfully, you could suffer a sudden firing. Don’t take it personally! Instead, consider what to do about it.
Often a simple “I don’t know but I will check it out” suffices for scientific questions from your KOL. If you are being humiliated in front of your team by Manager Evil, silence is a good strategy. Another pioneered by psychiatrist Dr. Rudolf Dreikurs is to simply say, “Excuse me Manager Evil but I have to go to the bathroom, be right back!” (Few will follow you there!) You can speak to or confront Manager Evil privately later and see what it was all about. Often, they will apologize, make excuses, etc. Don’t stop there. Ask something like, “How can I be assured this won’t happen again?” Don’t take it personally!
And like Chief Medical Officers in health care systems who have a shelf life of 7-9 years, your time may come. Personalities, expectations, third parties, politics, mistakes, and any number of issues can lead to your firing. When it happens, it will be without warning, very sudden, and without appeal. No matter how you feel, switch to negotiation mode for the best severance you can get. Sign nothing under pressure.
Don’t take it personally! But of course, it will very much feel personal and there will be time for you to mourn… Just don’t do it in the moment. Your power resides in your silence. Process your feelings later. Seek whatever explanation you can get (often this will be very unsatisfying compliments of HR). Don’t take it personally!