"The issue in all human conflict is never about things, but always about respect"

We can so easily lose sight of things when we find ourselves in conflict over who did what to whom. Dr. Rudolf Dreikurs the famous Chicago psychiatrist said that ongoing conflict is never really about money or sex or how we load the dishwasher. Rather it often takes the form of:

-         “My right to decide is being weakened here.”
-         “My right to control is being jeopardized.”
-         “My judgment and my ideas are not being considered here.”
-         “My prestige and my status are being questioned by this person.”
-         “My feelings just don’t seem to count here.”
-         “I feel unfairly treated.”
-         “I feel defeated.”
-         “I feel powerless.”
-         “I feel inferior.”

Ever feel those ways regardless of the content? These feelings of respect or rather feeling disrespected linger long after the event that initiated them. Attend to the real issue and you may find resolution around the corner.