Even if you are the expert, the teacher, the author, the parent, or the partner, aim to be collaborative rather than authoritative. Yes, we all have our areas of expertise—economists, physicians, historians, and philosophers possess vast knowledge in their fields. But so does the window washer at O’Hare Airport, expertly gliding her tools over expansive windows.
When engaging with others, I strive to ask questions that uncover their unique insights. For instance, “What’s the most exciting discovery in your study of economics (medicine, etc.)?” or “What’s your secret to cleaning windows so efficiently?” (Wrist action and a special formula in the bucket!) Even if I think I know, it's better to let them teach me than to act like a know-it-all.
When you are the expert in the room, avoid acting as if you are. Instead, combine, collaborate, cooperate, and connect with others’ expertise. They may have knowledge beyond our own. As authors learn while writing, “Writing a novel is like driving at night. You can only see as far as your headlights, but you know there’s a destination you’ll reach sooner or later.”
By fostering a spirit of collaboration, we can enrich our understanding and build stronger connections.