Today, we’re continuing our series on networking with three essential tips for mastering effective communication and engagement—key components in becoming an impactful MSL:
1. W.A.I.T. This stands for a reminder to all MSLs “Why Am I Talking?” Sometimes we think by talking we will impress. Actually, just the opposite is true… You will be better remembered by how you listen, how you attend, how you seem fully with the other person. At a recent party I had a long conversation with a horticulturalist about invasive plants, glaciers, and oak trees! It was interesting, he was interesting, and I was interested. So be interested instead of trying to be interesting. You can have a terrific conversation with anyone about anything especially things you don’t know if only you will WAIT and listen.
2. Ditch your “elevator speech” Nobody wants to be trapped listening to you about you. Prepare a conversational identity statement to use when asked, such as “I work with ______ who want to _____ so that they can ______.” And then turn the conversation to them by adding “How about you?” or “Were you ever on a work team where the leader of the team got promoted to lead the team but didn’t really have any training in being a leader? That’s who I work with. How about you?” These are designed to stimulate a conversation moment not an admiration moment.
3. Have a routine you can count on…look for ‘the one’ that is most interesting to you. Personally, I look for those who sit alone and quite simply go over and say, “Hi I’m Kevin, OK to share your table?” They always say yes, and it gives me an opportunity to engage in a conversation. I did this outside of a funeral once thinking the person was somehow important to what brought all of us together. Turned out he owned a junk yard (which actually is pretty interesting!), was married to the important person who I then met and helped her get hired at our university. Some call it fate, we call it taking advantage of a situation before us.